By Little Allen General Manager of Trapeze
So you’ve finally decided to take the plunge! You have thought about swinging for weeks, months, maybe even years. You have fantasized about being with someone other than your significant other… and now, “The moment of truth has at last arrived.” Entering a swingers club like Trapeze is one of the most exciting experiences you can have as a couple.
Here are some helpful pointers that hopefully will assist a new couple to successfully embark on their maiden journey into swinging.
First and foremost good communication skills are a must between couples. Both partners must be able to communicate to one another their wants, needs and desires as it relates to swinging. Setting boundaries is a must in order to eliminate problems that might arise between the new couple. Know your partner… remember, you guys are in this together to explore and enjoy. Take it slow and abide by the rules you have set for each other.
How you handle situations is key to your enjoyment in the swinging lifestyle. There may be occasions where you might meet up with another couple and for whatever reason, the chemistry just isn’t there. It is important to be able to get out of the situation gracefully without offending the other couple. One good piece of advice is to have code words such as, “Honey, did you remember to call the baby sitter”? Come up with creative words or phrases that alert your partner that you are not comfortable in that particular situation.
Two words that will wreak havoc in your relationship are “Jealousy & Love”. These are two emotions that you definitely want to avoid. Falling in love with someone other than your significant other or becoming jealous of the relationship your partner has created with someone else can be hazardous to your success in the Alternative Lifestyle. That is why it is so important for good communication to take place prior to encounters and after. Share with your partner the positive and the negative along with things that you might want to try in the future. Experimentation can be fun because it can enhance pleasurable experiences between both of you as well as others.
It is also important to know the rules of the club or venue that you visit. Of course the most important rule of any swingers club is “No Means No”. It is certainly not appropriate to think that you could go up to anyone and touch them without permission just as you would not want anyone to be aggressive with you or your partner without your consent. Go with the flow. Relax and enjoy!
Perhaps being amongst open minded people in an uninhibited setting such as a swingers club is the biggest social change you may encounter in your lives. The joy of expressing yourselves both verbally and physically with like minded people is what makes the alternative Lifestyle so fascinating and exciting. Remember, stick to the rules you both establish and stay the course.