Dear Dr. R. Lindsey,
We are a professional couple in our 40′s and have been in the lifestyle for two-years. We have made many friendships and enjoy our “swing time.” However, we also have many long standing friendships with couples not in the lifestyle. We are open with most of them and they look forward to hearing about our adventures in swinging. Recently one couple has indicated a desire to explore the lifestyle and yet we feel uneasy about it. We notice that they are often angry with one another and very jealous. What should we do?
Dear Concerned Friends,
Your caution is well founded. The Lifestyle is intriguing to many people, but it is not suitable for most. Your best approach is to have a discussion with this couple and educate them about how the Lifestyle can quickly bring a prepared couple together or tear an unprepared couple apart. Focus on the need for great communication, well developed self-esteem, and how to manage one’s jealous feelings. The Lifestyle is not the answer to a challenging relationship. However it may be a great enhancement to a stable and caring relationship.
Dr. R. Lindsey,