Dear LifeStyle Counselor,
I have been to several swinger clubs and participated in gang bangs. I have a concern, which is, I orgasm fairly quickly during masturbation and oral sex. My hang up is that I have never been able to climax during penetration, is this normal? Is this a physical or mental thing?
Signed,
Orgasm Lady
Dear Orgasm Lady,
You are not alone so don’t think anything of it. I have researched that 70% of women who orgasm certain ways have difficulties achieving orgasm another way. What it boils down to is that women need the right type of stimulation of her clitoral region in order to achieve a full orgasm. It can be a mental thing as well. Some women only achieve orgasm through anal sex. Your husband may be using the right type of pressure and stimulation you need during oral sex that his penis can not give you during penetrative sex. Some women also only climax through g-spot stimulation. I would recommend your husband use his hand to stimulate your clitoral region during sex, or you can do this yourself. Many women massage their clitoris during penetrative sex, and it helps them climax.
Sincerely,
LC
