Just what exactly is the difference between an open marriage and swinging? At first it does appear on the surface that they represent the same thing; but delve deeper into the intricacies of both options and you will find that there are indeed distinctions with them which make a world of a difference to those involved.
In regards to the open marriage, it basically involves the married couple agreeing that they can be with other people in a sexual sense away from the marital bed. This takes away the idea of people having an affair and cheating on one another. They believe that their love and bond is strong enough and will not be damaged by either partner spending time with someone else. They agree to them being allowed to have a relationship outside their marriage, but the other partner simply does not want to be included.
Swinging is different in that it generally involves two couples who swap partners for sex with it normally being in the presence of each other. This can also take the form of going to certain clubs where this takes place and there is no sense of building any kind of actual relationship other than it just being a way for them to have sex with others without there being any kind of emotions or feelings attached. It has to be said that an open marriage is often seen by many people as being a genre of swinging it’s just that the rules are slightly different as to what is allowed and the amount of time that they will spend with another person. In the open marriage, the person may go for dinner, go for walks or anything else like a normal relationship and up to including sexual involvement whereas swinging is purely sexual and virtually nothing else.
It is perhaps safe to say that neither option is classified as cheating as in most cases cheating requires a degree of trust to have been damaged whereas with both of these approaches everybody involved knows what is happening and indeed with whom. It is, therefore, important that there is complete honesty at all times for either option to really work and there has to be an understanding at all times that there is always a chance that something could go wrong and problems may indeed occur in the marriage or relationship. This is a chance that people are willing to take and any potential discomfort about what is going on must be discussed immediately and both people are in agreement about whatever is going on.
Those are the key differences between an open marriage and a couple who are swingers. The one thing that does come across is a clear understanding and a great degree of trust between the couple in order for either of these things to occur. If either interest you, then do make sure you talk it over with your partner and really look into it as much as possible because even though it undoubtedly works for some it can often lead to all kinds of problems for others.